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Dh and I have been together 10 years so I feel like I’ve forgotten what it’s like to be with anyone else. I’ve always felt like sex between us hasn’t flowed naturally and there are a few reasons why.

He has ED issues which I know makes him feel embarrassed. He never told me about this, I found packets of Viagra in his prescription. He doesn’t like talking about it which I understand. This means sex has to be pre planned and while I’ve gotten used to this over the years and don’t really mind it, it does mean that it’s never spontaneous.

We do the same routine every single time. I enjoy it. We both reach the end goal so I suppose there’s nothing wrong with that but it is literally the same thing each time.

We only average 1-2 times a month when we get the house to ourselves. Again, my sex drive is not through the roof so this isn’t an issue as such but I still sometimes think it’d be nice to make more time for each other.

He is rubbish at communicating about sex and on the rare occasion I send a flirty text or try to talk about sex at all he clams up and doesn’t reply in any sort of reciprocal way.

I find it hard to talk to him and I’m not unhappy as such, it isn’t like the threads you read on here where couples have totally mismatched sex drives and one is very frustrated or on the verge of leaving over it. I think we are possibly both quite shy and neither dare introduce anything new, which is ridiculous after so long together. His attitude and lack of fun/communication around it puts a dampener on it for me, sometimes as if it’s just another chore for him to tick off the to do list.

I wonder if anyone has any tips on how things could maybe improve. We love each other a lot and I don’t want things to go stale(r) then they already are.

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Single parent in late 30s, husband left 2 years ago. The kids have found it difficult and still struggle so no jumping into new relationships for me.
I do sometimes just miss sex. Not just orgasms but generally intimacy with it too.

Do I just have to wait it out for me to just not be interested any more? Do I have to accept that part of my life is over?

I posted this on Dadsnet too, but thought id try here as well.
Ive been with my bf for about 6 months now. He’s amazing when it comes to sex, foreplay and satisfying me basically. However i have absolutely no clue as to how else to satisfy him during foreplay other than giving a Bj.

please please, can you guys share some ideas for foreplay that men like that i could try. Could be anything at all.

Thank you!

I’ve had a quick Google which says that it’s a myth and a potential health problem. If we haven’t had sex for around 1-2 weeks (but after foreplay so aroused) everything feels so tight, uncomfortable for me, DP says it feels good. We’re normally more regular but if life has got in the way etc and it’s over a week this is the only way I can describe it? Slightly embarrassing, is it worth a trip to the Drs or has anyone else experienced similar?

If my husband wants sex (usually before bed at night) he will suddenly start touching me down below. I really struggle as I usually don’t already feel turned on and that doesn’t do it for me…I would much rather start with kisses or cuddles or stroking or whatever to get me in the mood. I don’t know what is normal for others though but I have tried saying what I’d like but he just never seems to make the effort and I sort of just end up feeling like a piece of meat and not really worth making the effort for. It just doesn’t feel sexy. I feel like we’ve been married for so long though I don’t know what is normal and if I should just let him get on with it and learn to feel more comfortable with it and if that’s normal for other couples too.

This happened a little while ago but this is how I discovered a kink I am soooo in love with i already love to suck dick, its one of my favorite things to do especially deep throating so i discovered this kink during really really rough forceful sex where this guy held my head and just fucked my throat and I was drooling all over myself and there was already cum all over me, but what happened was he knew i have a bad gag reflex and fucked my throat anyway which made me throw up but he was still holding my head so he just kept on thrusting into my throat like nothing happened so i had made a huge mess all over myself and his dick long story short… i am so so obsessed with really forceful and rough deep throat fucking, the kind that makes me gag and throw up and make a huge mess im a good little whore so i would never ever stop before i drain ur cock i have so many other kinks i love too

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