I’d like to ask for others’ opinions regarding my situation. I'm in a sexless marriage with my husband of 17 years. It's been sexless for almost 3 years and seems very unlikely to change. The sex wasn't that great even when it was still happening. I don't want to leave as I have a very comfortable life otherwise. We get along well enough outside the bedroom but I've been becoming increasingly frustrated with the lack of sex. Compounding the issue is that my libido is the highest it has been since I was in my 20s. I'm 46 now. I don't think about sex 24/7 but I think about it daily, usually several times a day. I fantasise about having extramarital sex with men who I find attractive. I sometimes give men the “eye” when I am out in public, and am flattered when they reciprocate. I fantasise about having passionate, lustful sex where we both are in a mad rush to rip each other’s clothes off. I have also found that the warm weather has enhanced my libido even further.

I wanted to ask if anyone here (I would like to hear from both women and men) has actually had extramarital sex and would be willing to share their experience. Did you regret it? It feels quite naughty to say, but the idea of an affair or even a one-off shag with someone else has become increasingly appealing to me. Not looking for any moralising about affairs or extramarital sex being wrong by the way, though I am sure some people will still try to do that anyway.

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Single parent in late 30s, husband left 2 years ago. The kids have found it difficult and still struggle so no jumping into new relationships for me.
I do sometimes just miss sex. Not just orgasms but generally intimacy with it too.

Do I just have to wait it out for me to just not be interested any more? Do I have to accept that part of my life is over?

I posted this on Dadsnet too, but thought id try here as well.
Ive been with my bf for about 6 months now. He’s amazing when it comes to sex, foreplay and satisfying me basically. However i have absolutely no clue as to how else to satisfy him during foreplay other than giving a Bj.

please please, can you guys share some ideas for foreplay that men like that i could try. Could be anything at all.

Thank you!

I’ve had a quick Google which says that it’s a myth and a potential health problem. If we haven’t had sex for around 1-2 weeks (but after foreplay so aroused) everything feels so tight, uncomfortable for me, DP says it feels good. We’re normally more regular but if life has got in the way etc and it’s over a week this is the only way I can describe it? Slightly embarrassing, is it worth a trip to the Drs or has anyone else experienced similar?

If my husband wants sex (usually before bed at night) he will suddenly start touching me down below. I really struggle as I usually don’t already feel turned on and that doesn’t do it for me…I would much rather start with kisses or cuddles or stroking or whatever to get me in the mood. I don’t know what is normal for others though but I have tried saying what I’d like but he just never seems to make the effort and I sort of just end up feeling like a piece of meat and not really worth making the effort for. It just doesn’t feel sexy. I feel like we’ve been married for so long though I don’t know what is normal and if I should just let him get on with it and learn to feel more comfortable with it and if that’s normal for other couples too.

I fucked a 19 F student working for me. I was a bit concerned. But, she was happy afterwards. She seemed to be OK with being used as a cumrag by a respectable local businessman. I am happy we did it, it was a pleasure for me. It is difficult to engage in such stuff in smaller conservative communities. What can I say.. proud of my catch :O

This was maybe a decade ago. I was 27 and had a gorgeous and flirty 19 y/o intern at work who was always wearing short skirts and low cut tops. She had an amazing ass, big doe eyes, amazing tattoos, and a sly smile that I hoped was meant for me but was too scared to ever really make a move. One night the office was drinking together and I went back to my office to finish some work. She followed and we chatted fairly innocently for a bit, but she was being very flirty with her body language.

She told me she needed help carrying something from the basement so I volunteered to help, still a little unsure if she was actually flirting with me. We get down there and she bends over to pull out whatever her ruse item was and asks if I like the view. I tell her she's obviously gorgeous, and she spins around and moves toward me and I finally move in to start making out with her. She tells me in the most sultry voice that “This is our little secret” as she rubs my cock through my pants and I immediately forget about anything but fucking her brains out. She gives me a blowjob on the office floor until I finally peel off her dress and get on top of her. I was too drunk to cum so we just fucked and fooled around for hours as the office party emptied out.

We passed out at 2am and I woke up to her a few hours with her mouth around my cock and she asked me to fuck her again. She mounted me and I started fingering her ass with her moaning. I finally felt like I was about to explode, I asked her if I could cum inside her and she breathlessly whispers back “yesss” in the hottest voice imaginable. I gave her an absolutely massive creampie and she thanked me by sucking my cock until I got soft. I left the company a few weeks later and never got to repeat the experience.